You + Growth = Change

     People always say don't change who you are for anything or anyone. However as we grow older we are constantly changing. This is not a bad thing, I repeat this is not a bad thing! Change always seems to be perceived as such a negative action, when in reality without change nothing would happen. 

     Recently I have reconnected with someone from my college years. I think that we only hung out once or twice. We probably went out to a bar or something like that. We were in the same program at school and met through a mutual friend. We ended up following each other on Instagram and now 7 years later we have reconnected (Yikes, I was in college 7 years ago...). Back when we first met we both had very different intentions, values and interests than we do now. Currently her and I share similar interests in Astrology and plants. Even our perception of things is similar (some major Earth energy going on). She is a great plant mom and she has shared with me all the do's and don't of plant-hood. We both find comfort in the fact that we are spiritual. It's hard to find someone you can relate to when it comes to card readings, manifesting and Astrology. A lot of people aren't on the same page when it comes to these topics and I'm so grateful for a friendship like the one that we share. We both agreed that it's amazing how this many years later the Universe brought us back into each others lives. This would not have been possible if we didn't grow and change along the way. 

     When I was 18-22 years old all I cared about was going out and spending money (racking up my credit cards), wanting to look good (to get attention), and drinking (and I don't mean water). These were some of the hardest years of my life by far but probably the most spontaneous and fun! I made so many friends. We shared a lot of laughs and did some pretty outrageous stuff. I won't get too carried away about my younger years. I'll save all of that drama for another blog post.

     From age 22 to 24 (my current age) my lifestyle choices started to change. I began to care for people other than myself. I became more aware that the choices I make have consequences. I also realized that the money I racked up on my credit cards needed to get paid off and that student debt also needs to get paid back. At age 22 I had just gotten out of a 2 year long, very toxic relationship, one that I shouldn't have been in for that long. I was not in a good place mentally and I actually thought that the way I was living my life was completely fine! Red flag after red flag and I kept going back for more. Relationships can be tricky when it comes to growth (especially the toxic ones) because each person's growth process is different. We can grow at different rates as long as the intent is the same. Without the same intent it's inevitable that it will fall apart. As each person in the relationship grows independently the by product is a changed relationship. 

     Personal growth is natural but the growth process isn't pretty. This process will lead to certain people or interests being left behind. But trust me when I say that you will meet new people and you will build better relationships. Hey you might even reconnect with someone from your past. If you can manifest your growth you will successfully change your life for the better. Follow this simple equation and I promise you'll be looking at change in a whole different way. You + Growth = Change. 

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Xx. The Stressed Out Millennial