I have been putting off posting this blog post for a while now. This topic can be viewed many different ways and I am going to do the best that I can to not be biased.
I am asked all the time when I'm going to have kids. A lot of people don't realize this about me but I'm not a fan of children. Sure I think they are cute from far away and they can be funny. I don't mind other people's children in small doses but I don't want any of my own.
Personally I don't see myself having kids. Not ever, just not any time soon. I can fully admit that I am not ready to have children. I am 24 years old soon to be 25. The points that I am about to mention may seem silly but they are true. I'm selfish, I don't understand kids, it wouldn't be fair to the child and it's MY CHOICE.
Not long ago I wrote a blog post about being a grown-up. I discussed in that blog post that I don't feel like a grown-up. If I were to have a baby right now it would be the strangest thing. It would be like a child having a child.
When I say that I'm selfish I don't mean that in every aspect of my life but I like my sleep, my me-time and I know that entering motherhood I would lose these things that I cherish so very much.
The way I look at it, it's my body and my choice. For years women fought for the right to birth control and the rights to their own bodies. Not that long ago women were only thought of as child bearing beasts (legitimately that's all we used to do). Now that we have a choice (not everyone but most of us) to birth control and if or when we want children I am going to fully take advantage of this.
At this present time there are so many things I would like to accomplish. I fully understand that having a child means I would have to make some sacrifices and I'm just not ready to take that plunge. If you are in the same boat as me, just know you are not alone. Take pride in knowing what you want. That's one thing that I admire about many millennials. We stick to our gut and have confidence in our choices! A lot of our parents got married and had kids strictly because that's what they were taught and that's what their parents did. They didn't even question it.
One of my closest friends had a baby about 3 years ago. Time has flown by. She is an amazing mom and her little dude is one funny character. I don't want this blog post to be all about me bashing people having children. That's not my intent. What I am saying is that it's your body and your choice and you shouldn't have to explain yourself to anyone!
I'm sure that you've all been asked when you're having kids by your parents, grandparents, coworkers and even that little old lady at the grocery store that you don't even know. These people aren't being mindful for many reasons including:
- endometriosis
- fertility issues
- miscarriages
- people can't afford it
- mental health
- they don't want to
No one should have to explain themselves when it comes to their preference on having children, period.
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Xx. The Stressed Out Millennial
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